CORE men's group

What men are missing isn't more information. It's other men.

A small, curated circle of men built for real connection and honest challenge. Not a course. Not a drop-in. A long-term brotherhood where your default patterns actually change because you're not doing it alone. Application only.

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CORE men's group

What this is. And what it isn't.

This is not group therapy. It's not a mastermind. It's not another program where you collect more frameworks and still feel stuck six months later.

CORE is a long-term circle of men who show up for each other, tell the truth even when it's uncomfortable, and don't let each other stay stuck. The work is somatic - meaning we work with your nervous system, not just your thinking. And the community is what makes it stick, because patterns don't change in isolation. They change when you're seen, challenged, and held accountable by men who actually know you.

If you're just looking for tips and strategies, this isn't it. If you're ready to change how you actually show up in your life, keep reading.

You are done doing it alone.

You've started the inner work - maybe therapy, maybe on your own, maybe both. You've got genuine self-awareness. And you can feel that something is off:

  • You're "fine," but exhausted.
  • You catch your father's voice coming out of your mouth when you talk to your kids.
  • You hold this constant pressure to keep it all together.
  • You're up at 2am thinking about how to have a tough conversation or rehashing what you should have said differently.
  • You give all day at work, and by the time you get home, there's nothing left.
  • Your wife says she wants more presence, and it feels almost impossible to give more.
  • You keep old pain locked up - until it leaks out sideways.

You're not starting from scratch. You see your patterns clearly. And that almost makes it worse - because knowing hasn't been enough to change it.

Change doesn't live in your head. It happens in real time, with real people - when what you say and how you show up actually affects the men around you, and they affect you back.
Ro Paul

About Ro

For two decades I designed and delivered training programs for some of the world's largest companies - HP, Volvo, HSBC, Accenture - working with over 10,000 people on communication, leadership, and relationships.

Then came depression. Divorce. A complete loss of identity. The frameworks I'd taught for years didn't hold when my own life needed them most. I'd been teaching from my head, not living from my body.

What followed was five years traveling the world - coaches, healing modalities, medicine journeys, practitioners who could help me understand why insight alone wasn't enough. From that search came the blend of somatic awareness, parts work, and nervous system-informed coaching that now forms the foundation of everything I do.

Today I live in Asheville, NC with my wife Leigh - a therapist who keeps me honest - and our son Rowan. I sit in this circle alongside the men I coach, not above it.

What membership includes

Weekly live group call

90 minutes. Embodied check-ins and grounding practices. Truth-based sharing - succinct and real. Deeper work time, often a rotating support seat so each man gets the best of the group and the support he needs. Commitments, accountability and follow-through. This is the backbone of CORE.

Private community

Signal group, ongoing. Check ins at your pace. Ask for a quick call when you need support. Share wins, hard moments, decisions. This is your support system between calls - not one that gives advice, but one that shows up.

1:1 coaching with Ro

Six sessions per year (roughly every other month). These calls keep you supported and give you space for deeper work when needed. Whatever is most alive for you, we go there.

Accountability

Weekly intention, stretch, or integrity action. 1-on-1 accountability check-ins. Not just setting goals - following through on them with men who will hold you to it.

In-person retreats

Two weekends per year, away from the noise. This is where the group deepens in ways that can't happen on a screen. Expenses shared at cost. No markup. Pre-approved budget decided by the group.

From the men inside CORE

I avoided everything for so many years and covered it up with alcohol. Once I got sober and started doing this kind of work, it was the only thing where I actually saw real growth. All the retreats and everything are great, but those are fleeting. This is the thing that has long-term effects - you actually show up, week after week. My connection with these men is stronger than with anybody else in my life. It took me a long time to get here - at least a year before I truly got honest and vulnerable. But I show up because it works.
Luke North Carolina
I'm extremely grateful that I didn't stand in my own way when making the decision to go down this path. It has been more effective than I even hoped. Left on my own, I could sink back into avoidance or have the mask pulled back over my eyes by defense mechanisms and solitude. It's the relationships in this group - the conversations, the weekly touchpoints - that keep my aperture open and curious. Deep down in my core, I truly feel that I am worth loving. I don't question that at all anymore.
Marc Kentucky
I'm really proud of how I've been showing up - at work, at home - especially compared to three or four years ago. It's not perfect all the time, by any means. But I'm okay with that. I've come to appreciate the diversity of our lives, our backgrounds, where we are - and see how that's become a benefit versus something I'd turn my nose up at. I've pulled a complete 180 from seeing myself as different, and therefore separate, to belonging. The acceptance for me to show up to each of these calls as I am - I'm really grateful for that.
Jim New Jersey
In working with Ro, the awareness has been dramatic for how I used to show up versus how I show up now. The effects permeate my relationships, my friendships, my work life - at the end of the day, it's helping me show up for me. And I don't think I was really doing that before. I'd experimented with other therapy platforms that helped me vocalize my challenges but didn't offer any actionable next steps. This felt like the best parts of therapy, coaching, and embodiment all coming together. The game-changer was learning to sit with uncomfortable work, question my reactions in real time, and stay with it even when every part of me wanted to pull away. These days, I'm far more aware of my triggers and how my body reacts. I can pause, be present, and bring both empathy and compassion to interactions that used to shut me down.
Phil New Jersey

Watch Phil's Story

Phil describes his experience in his own words - from learning to notice his body's signals to choosing presence over reactivity in the moments that matter.

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